I have put off visiting churches because I don't like to go alone. I don't like sitting by myself anywhere, not even while the person I am with goes to the bathroom, so church by myself seems daunting. Then, the fact that different churches handle things differently also gives me reason to worry. If someone's with you, then at least you're not the only one that sips from the communion cup instead of just dipping the bread. It's also good to have a partner if you are the only ones wearing jeans, or if you're the only ones dressed up. At least then there are two people who look out of place.
Sunday School is a completely different story. For people who are my age and single, this can be especially frustrating. There is the "singles" class that the well-meaning greeters try to pressure you into. Most of the time, these singles are, as my friend says, "single for a reason." They are the forty-year-old divorcees and the cat ladies. I believe that there are some great divorcees and cat people out there, but I would rather learn and fellowship with people in my stage of life. So, the other option is the college class. Well, I am no longer in college. I have had my share of Sunday School lessons on dating, doing my best in school, and following God's direction for what to major in. Also, I will be there every Sunday, not just during the summer and winter breaks.
I find myself going to churches without Sunday School as a result. These churches have small groups. Small groups are a similar story, though. They usually throw in a "young professionals" group, though. This is good. What is not good is that many of these young professionals are engaged, married, and having babies. They aren't necessarily available for socializing outside of class. Not to mention, how in the world do you find a date when all the guys are already taken? (Note: this is not why I go to church, but you and I both know that every single person scopes out the other singles at church events. "They" say it's a great place to find a mate.)
I have triumphed over my fears for at least two Sundays now. Albeit, I had been to this church before and knew that jeans were okay and they dip the bread, so that took away a few fears. I'm still working up the nerve to join a small group, though.
